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Coming Out and Identity

The evolution of one’s sexuality and gender identity is a complicated process of recognition, acceptance, and sharing. Each person makes unique choices about how to share their identity with friends, family, classmates, co-workers, their faith community, and the world. Coming out is a difficult process that requires trust, support, and patience.

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I was gay when I was young.

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I came out in the street in Detroit.

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I was playing around at 13.

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I never came out. I lived my life.

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That ended all those relationships for a long time.

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I loved playing dress up.

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My first crush was on musicians, Peter Frampton.

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I'm just happy if I can date Barbie.

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I was this flamboyant kid growing up.

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I just became my authentic self.

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Most of our high school group were queer.

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I came out in 1978, at 18.

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I didn't look gay.

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My mother knew because I looked at women.

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I came out at sixteen or seventeen.

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I freaked. She's gay, but I'm not gay.

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I always knew that I was different.

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My boyfriend and I were very secrective.

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I decided that it was okay to be me.

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My mother couldnt'discuss that I was gay.

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I wasn't out with my daughter's father.

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I had feelings very young.

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We were close because we felt the same way.

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I felt shame. I was doing something wrong.

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It would be frightening to be a lesbian.

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I didn't know any gay people.

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That very much was an existential crisis.

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I'm not a lesbian, just in love.

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I moved to America to live my life as a gay man.

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Everyone was still trying to figure out gender.

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I didn't associate experimenting with being a lesbian.

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I struggled with coming out.

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Leslie educated Audrey and me.

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I came out with a former student of mine.

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Coming out to her was such a disgrace.

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Coming out at work

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She'd definitely be out of a job.

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Awareness at a young age

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I adopted the term queer for myself.

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I was born gay.

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I came out when I was fourteen.

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Mother caught me and that's the beginning.

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I was a bully to get respect.

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At 40 I accepted my authentic self.

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There was nobody back then to explain what you were going through.

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I came out to my mom at fifteen.

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A friend took me to my first gay bar.

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I didn't come out until probably 2000.

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My best friend gave me my first kiss.

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I accepted the word tomboy.

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I felt something different for Mary Anne.

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A neighborhood girl kissed me.

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My first crush was my school teacher.

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My dad is gay.

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My sister introduced me to amazing gay hairdressers.

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My own willingness to be very out.

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Life is really short.

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Gay and lesbian identity did not come up.

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I ran away from home after that incident.

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Nobody knew about gays, fags, anything.

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Mom said "No child of mine is lesbian."

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I didn't come out until I was 24.

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I'm going to be honest when school starts.

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My command staff was very supportive.

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I felt so comfortable with women at bars.

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Girls liked to experiment.

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My first crush was my sister's girlfriend.

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Coming out stories from diverse backgrounds.

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My best friend was very supportive.

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I started delving into queerness.

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I came out in my thirties.

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At Fran's, I could be myself.

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My dad took it hard.

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There was a lot to process after graduation.

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We need a place for our stories.

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We weren't pretending, but also not saying gay.

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It was really important for students to know.

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If I had come out when I was in high school...

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Weekend lesbians.

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I know a place.

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